Wednesday, August 18, 2010

The gratitude of friendship

While life might not always be Fillet Mignon and bon-bons, sometimes it shows you who your true friends are. I experienced that last week.

To my friend who called . . . repeatedly . . . to check on me when I didn't show up online: You are kind. While it really is okay to take a day off from gaming now and then it's nice to know that I am missed when I am away. I hope what triggered my absence never happens again, but if it does I will warn you next time so you don't worry.

To my friends who jumped into my game uninvited, when I did come back online: Thank you. A simple act of kindness that said "I want to play with you" made a big difference between current feelings of frustration and despair and a new found sense of peace and contentment. It was nice to feel wanted and uplifting to know there will always be people there for me. Even if just online.

To my friend who led an incompetent noob through a rough patch in a game while they received little to no reward for doing all the work: You have my undying gratitude and unwavering friendship. I play games until I get stuck or frustrated. Sometimes that does not take much in a game. And sometimes that means I don't get very far. I've lamented the fact that everyone else seems to finish those games whereas I languish in troublesome areas. You were my knight in shining armor even though I hate to be the weak damsel in distress. Your selfless sacrifice was duly noted and I hope to return the favor sometime.


Helll Weasell said...

You always tend to get too down on yourself for the whole gaming thing. It really doesn't matter at all. Can you put it on your resume? Does it get you exclusive access into posh restaurants? Gaming is a hobby/past-time/entertainment. Nothing more. I can understand the frustration because I'm a competitive person and I want to play well and/or help the team win, but I certainly wouldn't lose sleep over it.

The people who we meet through, that's a different story. I really like the group of people who we have in our mutual friend lists. These are people who we not just game with, but we talk and share our lives with. We let them into our inner circle. They are a part of our lives. I have said more than once that I'm grateful for Xbox Live because I've had the opportunity to meet a lot of cool people who I otherwise would not have met.

I have also said - and I stand by it - is that if there were a group of 5 or 6 of us who were planning to meet, I would be there in a heartbeat. I don't think that I could do it if it were just one, but definitely for a group. The exception would be if I were travelling and was going to be close to someone I would definitely try to get together with them for lunch or a drink or something.

If that friends list "reunion" ever happens, I would hope that you would be there.

Pengwenn said...

What really got me bummed last week was work and co-workers. We switched over to Office 2007 without any training at all. Since I could work the old office programs inside and out everybody assumed I could do the same with the new ones. Unfortunately I was seeing them for the first time the same as them. That didn't stop them from inundating me with "fix this", "show me that" etc. all week long. It left me emotionally exhausted dealing with everyone else's problems (not to mention my own).

To top that off things were said and I heard comments about my "loser life playing video games". Things like "no wonder she doesn't have a boyfriend" and "she'll never get married". Real uplifting stuff.

I've heard it all before, but since I was so mentally/emotionally exhausted it just hit harder and closer to home this time. The thought of going on line and shooting people's heads off with friends was appealing. But turning off the power and knowing you guys were going back to your wives and girlfriens and I would be alone again was just more than I could handle at the moment.

I love my independent life and I'm happy and confident most of the time. Would I love to find someone and get married? Absolutely! Would I love to just have someone in my life who I could come home to and share my work frustrations with? Yes. I can tell my dog all my troubles but she just looks at me like "when do I get my treat".

Helll Weasell said...

That's how I look at Rhonda but she just ignores me. So I end up online playing video games. No "treat" for me :-(

While I think they went about things the wrong way, your co-workers do have a bit of a point. If you are truly interested in meeting someone, you might have to put the controller down for a while and venture into the real world. It's generally hard to meet someone from the comfort of your living room couch. And I wouldn't expect it to come quick. You might have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. And it seems to get harder as we get older because we become more set in our ways and less likely to change.

Just know that whatever you choose to do, your friends are here for you.

Zak said...

We should have an Xbox live Reunion, that would be fun, I'm tired of just seeing Dennis, ha ha ha. I hope to see Ghangies soon, now that he lives closer.